It's not what you think.
I’m not going to guilt or shame you into believing Botox is wrong, dangerous, or shameful.
In fact, I am pro-Botox when used to treat headaches, extreme sweating, and even dramatic facial expression lines.
So, why did I swear it off?
Because it made me look and feel old.
Yes, you read that right. I believe that Botox is one of the most aging things I did to my face.
The smooth, tight look synonymous with Botox has become associated with aging women.
This blank and frozen look, or as I call it “Botox face” has become an unconscious cue of age, and on me, was a dead giveaway that I was afraid of aging.
Quickly becoming the look of women aged 35 - 75, “Botox face” looks like a forehead that is smooth, tight, and shiny.
It is having eyebrows, arched so high that you look perpetually surprised, or hanging lower on your face, pushing your eyelid skin down.
What causes these differing effects? It's all about where it's injected, and even a millimeter too high or low will you give you these results.
It starts when you want injections to freeze the muscles of your forehead when you smile. But then the muscles around your eyes contract instead. So you freeze the muscles around your eyes too. The muscles in your upper cheeks contract and squeeze the skin under your eyes causing more wrinkles. You are then advised to inject dermal fillers, like Juvederm ® under your eyes, and so, on and so on. It's not a strategy for looking or feeling beautiful.
In fact, it's a slippery slope of perpetually being dissatisfied with the way we look.So is Botox A Good Idea?
According to Medical News Today, Hannah Nichols writes:
"Botox is a drug made from a neurotoxin produced by the bacterium Clostridium botulinum called botulinum toxin. It is used medically to treat certain muscular conditions and cosmetically remove wrinkles by temporarily paralyzing muscles.”
“For muscles to contract, nerves release a chemical messenger, acetylcholine (a neurotransmitter), at the junction where the nerve endings meet muscle cells. The acetylcholine attaches to receptors on the muscle cells and causes the muscle cells to contract or shorten. Injected botulinum toxin prevents the release of acetylcholine, preventing contraction of the muscle cells."
Essentially, Botox acts as a microscopic dam, blocking off the pathway between your nerves and your muscles before the command “contract muscles” reaches its final destination.
Scientists call this temporary paralysis.
I call it blocking all of the cellular cross-talk and streaming information happening between your muscles, brain, eyes and heart which creates a lack of energy and flow. As you may know: If you don't have flow, you don't have glow.
Botox becomes a problem when women get trapped in this vicious spiral, chasing perfection with increasingly aggressive treatments and procedures.
At this point, if you visit a surgeon to see if you are a candidate for blepharoplasty ( eyelid surgery), don’t be surprised when the doctor says yes.
I know they might, because this is my story ...
It happened to me.
I was in the surgeon's office hoping she would tell me it was all in my mind. That I didn’t need surgery to make my eyelids less droopy. Instead, she said, yes. I had excessive eyelid skin, she told me, and she would be happy to fix that for me.
I went home devastated. This happened at a time when I was struggling personally and professionally. I was just coming to terms with my middle-agedness.
After carefully considering what she said and what I was intuiting, I came to realize that it wasn’t my age taking a toll on my face.
It was the years I had spent having my brows artificially depressed by Botox that had made my eyelids appear saggy!
I decided to scrap the injections and develop a sustainable solution instead: increased circulation via skin intelligence, a revived relationship with my self-image, more energy illumination in my cells, and an extra big dose of Self-Love.
AND IT WORKED! My eyelids are no longer the tiniest bit saggy.
You can learn my full Higher Self Beauty Effect in The Pathway, but let’s unpack the easiest and absolutely free first step:
Think about it: The only stimulation our face gets is from our emotions.
Picture an upper arm that hasn't been exercising. It's crepey and saggy.
Now, imagine the arm of someone who moves their body often-- that arm has blood pumping, muscles moving and cells that are oxygenated. Yep, the same is true of our faces.
I feel like I stumbled on the fountain of youth with this revelation.
Can it really be this simple?
Yes! And you don’t even need to be an expert to get the same results.
Facial Touch is Skin Intimacy
If you are picturing complicated face yoga, don't worry, I wouldn't do that to you. My facial exercises are like CrossFit for the face. Maximum efficacy for minimal time investment. I take that back; it's not like CrossFit because you won't be exerting yourself at all!
The first step is to begin touching your face with intention and reverence.
Feel your face. Feel how your fingers find the hollows and curves.
Now press in. Take time to explore and notice the unique curvature of your face.
You just make conscious contact with your muscles and skin cells and use your intention to melt away the patterns of stress causing the repetitive contractions.
Then, you make it a part of your daily lifestyle.
Now, back to Botox. When is it okay?
If you've gone too long without loving up your face, you may look in the mirror to find a permanent scowl, even when you don't feel scowly...
This could be the time to use some Botox to help re-train that chronic facial expression- or it could be time to clear the tension and stress with a more effective, more loving and less expensive way.
You can’t rely on Botox alone. You are the missing ingredient.
Spend some time noticing when you make these facial movements, and commit to interrupting the patterns.
Spend some time contemplating the emotions you feel when you make this expression. Is this emotion serving you?
More often than not, the women I work with find that the emotions they are expressing, belong to a past event, and are not serving them at this moment.
And, the stress and lines they are seeing on their faces-- is just an imprint of the past that can be easily and gently released.
And that’s where the I AM method comes in.
The evolution of pure facial massage, I created this easy, daily ritual to help my clients begin to connect with themselves on a deeper level.
Using this method, my client's have been able to soften the visibility of wrinkles and even the negative emotions causing them.
This is because the I AM method isn’t centered on obtaining physical beauty. It’s designed to integrate energy and self-love with my transformative products and massage techniques.
I designed this 2-minute ritual to be simple, easy, and so short so that anyone can do it in their own home.
I’ve outlined it below, and if you desire to go deeper with it, you are always welcome to join us in the Higher Self Beauty Pathway where your I AM is only the beginning.
Love, Amy Wall | The Skintessa
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The I AM MethodThe I AM method is my transformative, dailyskin routine that is essential to reaching thedeepest layers of the skin and deepening the connection betweenyour mind, body, spirit, and skin.It rests on nine pillars and comes together in one short and easy daily ritual.It starts with ‘I’ using clean, ultra-premium, bioavailable Ingredients applied with Intention and Imagination.Then we bring in the “A” using Awareness and Affirming and Acknowledging positive truths about who you are and how you feel.This has a miraculous effect on your body's ability to heal and transform from the inside out.Next, bring in the element of ‘M’. Using Massage, and Mindfulness in the Mirror.Start by gazing at your own eyes in the mirror, and use tapping massage from the top ofyour forehead all the way down your face to your chest, opening up the energetic pathways, turning on those meridian points, and deeply penetrating those ingredients through everylayer and level all the while saying, coding and commanding an I AM statement as you tap your skin and look at yourself in the mirror.I AM radiant, I AM beautiful.The results are pure magic.